Soul Study 1

Background: 'A' arrived at my clinic with a seemingly happy disposition - chirpy and talkative and very friendly by nature. We chatted for about 30 min during which she disclosed that she has a lovely 13 year old adopted daughter (who is aware that she is adopted) and a biological son and the relationship with the daughter is a bit challenging of late. The young girl remains dissatisfied in spite of overwhelming love and care showered on her by the mother. The decision to adopt the baby girl was mutual by the couple and she is loved and adored by her older brother as well. However, a sense of 'disconnect', constant 'disharmony' and 'not belonging' remains in the child  upsetting the mother and causing frequent turbulent moments between them.

Session observations : I found 'A' to initially settle in well but it took a long deepening process for her relax her conscious mind and for her to let go. She very much was 'in control' for a long time. I first took her through age regression, taking her back to her childhood to see if any clues of discord existed wit her parents. I found the recession was slow and many responses were similar to her current state ( colour and type of clothing at the present moment). Eventually, as a small girl, her subconscious revealed that her mother was very dominating, constantly criticising her and extremely difficult to please. This was trauma no 1 for 'A'. In another regression episode 'A' cried and expressed how desperately she looked at her mother for words of appreciation which never came - her mother always had a strict demeanor and was a perfectionist, perhaps she was raised that way. It also turned out that 'A' had married out of choice and moved to NZ where she separated with her partner due to financial differences, but now on her way to finding independence through her craft. 

'A' did not regress to another life time inspite of a couple of attempts, each time getting stuck in a dark tunnel. Her intention to  find out the pending karma with her adopted daughter in a previous lifetime did not fructify. We found the root cause in this lifetime itself.

Intervention: In that time and space and in the presence of golden light I asked 'A' to  imagine herself as the same 5 year old girl standing in front of her mother, hugging her and asking why her mother was physically unable to demonstrate her love towards her. A forgiveness exercise followed with her mother asking for forgiveness and 'A' forgiving her followed with negative emotions being dissolved in the golden light. 

Learnings : The nature of relationship we have with our parents subconsciously seeps into our parenting. Either we end up 'just like them' in our parenting style or 'just the opposite' to compensate for the hurt we felt. Nevertheless, if not brought to light, the trauma of feeling underappreciated and undervalued or constantly criticised - eventually precipitates in our parenting style.

Over criticism in childhood had perhaps turned 'A' into a fiercely independent woman who would not accept any force or person challenging her ideology including around money, savings and expenditure. Unknowingly, she was imposing the same standards of perfection on her already sensitive daughter causing a 'control issues', resulting in her daughter to rebel. 

Post session healing : 'A' could see for herself that her inner child begging for approval from her mother has been left uncared for, which in turn is wanting to gain control over the feelings of unworthiness by controlling her daughter. Since her mother continues to not appreciate even the adult version of 'A', it her now upon 'A' to (1) forgive her mother for the incapacities she had/has to appreciate her. (2) Love her inner child and soothe her by saying, "she is enough the way she is". There is no need for approval from her mother, or any external agency - which is really hard to do, but required learning in self-love. 

As a child she did her very best and is still doing so as a mother. All that needs to happen is 'to 'let go' of the desperate control that 'A' is unknowingly imposing on her own daughter now, inspite of loving her to bits. The daughter on the other hand equates "being abandoned" by her own biological mother and an overpowering adopted mother as  'Not being worthy of love', in turn resulting in rebellion through non compliance.

 Lesson - 'Where there is Control, there is no Love' . Control is fear based , Love only knows freedom.

Soul Study 2

Background: Shambhavi recently lost her husband, about a year ago tragically and unexpectedly. They has been hoping through severe marital discord during the months leading upto his sudden demise and she carried a lot of guilt saying "I could not save him" and "He hates me, I need his forgiveness". The sheer disappointment, repentance and guilt was making her extremely uncomfortable. Shambhavi shared that her husband had turned alcoholic in the last 2 years of his life, increasingly becoming a recluse, did not share the financial burdens even though she was not all demanding of any comforts, and that family interference was causing him to block his emotions towards her.

Shambhavi has been an acquaintance of mine since last few years. The sudden loss of her husband was a shock for us all. She was extremely emotional and teary right from the first thought of getting 'answers of any sort'. I am not a medium or a channel for the soul world so the best way I could help as a therapist was to take her back to the exact moment of her husband's death, and re program her subconscious to release some guilt, back in that time and space. I had two pre consultations with Shambhavi, each an hour long as there was a lot buried inside her and I thought it was essential for her to first process the loss, to an extent where she is reasonably emotionally stable to go through a Hypnotherapy session.

Session observations : It took a fair amount of time to taker her into a deep state of relaxation as her conscious mind was quite skeptical at the start and she was in fact quite anxious. In the initial part of the session, I took her to a 'happy memory' - a family moment where she saw her husband and two children enjoying a meal and watching TV together. She insisted he was a good husband, only shared a little and never discussed his issues. The second part of regression was to the exact time of his death (heart attack) in front of her eyes. Shambhavi described the entire scene while crying heavily, where she was desperately trying to revive him with the help of a customer ( a nurse offered CPR), she frantically called the ambulance but the medics declared him dead very soon. The couple had had a massive fight right before the incident. 

Intervention : In that time and space, I asked her to imagine as if she standing face to face with her husband. She cried hard and uttered the words "I am sorry, I am so sorry", multiple times. Later, I asked her to imagine that both are lovingly smiling at each other, asking for each other's forgiveness - Shambhavi for being too hard on him and not understanding him enough, and the husband seeking forgiveness for not sharing his burdens, and asking her to not blame herself for all that happened. This happened in the presence of higher beings and a steam of golden light between them which dissolved all the anger, sorrow, grief and negative energies. They hugged each other and she let him move through the golden light asking him, not to worry about the family and business she now has to manage in his absence. It was a real cathartic cleaning for her and she felt lighter afterwards.

Learnings : Guilt is an all consuming emotion. Guilt can turn into anger and at other times, depression and leave one with a sense of worthlessness and helplessness. All that happens is not in our control. Self blame amount to lack of self love. We can only accept the unfortunate outcome, learn from it and move on, as tough as it may be. 

Post session healing : Her husband's last desire was to have his mother and relatives over once so the family may share a meal together. I asked Shambhavi if that could be a possible closure - to invite his family over, eat, talk and heal together and go through the good times they had once spent together, perhaps with her husband watching over them? She agreed to invite them and prepare his favourite food.

 Lesson - 'Guilt is a tough emotion to purge. Find ways to release it before it embeds in the energy body permanently. 

Soul Study 3

Background: Tanushree came to me extremely fragile, disturbed and tensed wanting to know why her pending karmic dues with her estranged, volatile and extremely controlling husband. Along with marital discord her current family home is cause of contention. Inspite of paying the mortgage of her home and clearing the bills, her husband simply won't leaver her alone and wants a split in the property.  Her husband has been physically violent disfiguring her face and body with injuries, degrades her in front of family friends and their kids, demeans her, and threatens to 'not leave her ever alone'. She has two grown up kids in their late teens and facing a court battle. 

Tanushree mentioned being choked on several occasions to the extent of her vocal cords being damaged and she is not able to speak up, simply speak her truth due to fear. She suffers from hypothyroidism which is also a clear sign of throat chakra blockage. She drank water several times and cried throughout the session.

Session observations : Tanushree instantly regressed to two past lifetimes, one after the other. 

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 Lesson - Lifetimes of pending issues due to significant abuse can result into blocked energy centres in our system which precipitates into physical diseases and blockages. 

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